How can I find my dad?

-I am 16 and I have never met my dad. I don't know anything about him apart from hi name and that he lives in Dover. I don't want my mum to find out that I want to find him. I have no idea why I hvent Met him or why he isn't hear. Do you think it's a good idea to try to find him?Well, I would agree totally with Ted Pack, however like he says you will do it anyway..........please think hard before you do and at least talk to your mum about it, something like this is hard to be kept a secret and you may be surprised that she is waiting for you to ask , yet hoping you never do.



In the UK you are old enough to do as you please ( by law) however at 16 maybe not old enough to deal with it even if you think you are and I am sure you do think that.....please talk to your mum first.



Lots of links to look for living people on here http://familytimeline.webs.com/adoptionl鈥?/a>I think that even if all 10 of us top 10 and 400 others said "No", you'd still try.



There are a number of reasons, none of them good, that your mother has never had you meet him, and he has never called or written.



He could be married.

He could be in prison.

He could be a child molester.

He could be a drug dealer.

She may have lied about knowing his name. She could have been too drunk when she had sex with him to remember clearly.

He may have lied about his name and vanished the next morning; or he may not have spent the night.
i'm not sure that you can do this yourself since your sixteen but some people hire private investigators

to search for lost relatives.